Why Grief from Pet Loss is so Difficult

National Love Your Pet Day is observed on February 20th in the UK each year. It's a day to set aside some extra time to show your pets how much they mean to you and to reflect on the positive impact they have on your life.

But, when we lose a beloved pet, the depth of grief can often take us by surprise. For many, pets are more than just animals; they are family, companions, and confidants. They weave themselves into the fabric of our daily lives in ways that leave a profound emptiness when they’re gone. This is why the loss of a pet can feel as overwhelming as the loss of a person - sometimes even more so.

The Unique Bond We Share with Pets

Pets offer unconditional love. They don’t judge us, hold grudges, or carry expectations. Their joy is contagious, their routines comforting, and their presence grounding. Over time, they become entwined with our sense of home and belonging.

This bond can make their absence feel stark and deeply painful. Everyday moments - feeding times, the jingle of a collar as they greet you at the door, a favourite spot on the sofa - become reminders of their absence. These tiny, routine details compound into a daily grief that can feel inescapable.

Pets can even be the anchors we have that get us through our most difficult times. I know my mum clung on so tightly to our family dog after the loss of my dad. Their presence provides so much comfort and stops us from being lonely, giving us purpose in our darkest times.


Why Pet Loss Grief Is Often Overlooked

One of the challenges of grieving a pet is that society doesn’t always acknowledge it as a "valid" loss. While most people understand the grief of losing a family member, they may underestimate the emotional toll of losing a pet. You might hear well-meaning comments like, “You can always get another one,” or, “It’s not the same as losing a person,” which can feel dismissive and invalidating.

This lack of recognition can make it difficult to express your grief openly. You might feel pressured to move on quickly or downplay the depth of your feelings, which can intensify the sense of isolation that often accompanies loss.


Acknowledging and Validating Your Grief

It’s important to remember that your grief is valid, and it’s ok to mourn your pet as deeply as you need to. They were a source of comfort, joy, and love, and it’s natural to feel their absence acutely. Finding ways to honour and remember them can help you navigate this difficult time.


Support Through Pet Loss

At LoveLossDiscoballs, we understand how painful losing a pet can be. That’s why we created a our pet loss cards to offer comfort and understanding during such a tender time. These cards are designed to reflect the unique bond you shared with your best friend, with messages that are heartfelt and specific, like our cat sympathy card featuring a silhouette of a cat against a sunrise or our dog sympathy card with the message, "Always by your side," and footprints and pawprints walking together.

A simple card can speak volumes, showing that you acknowledge their pain and are there for them as they navigate their loss. Be sure to allow someone to talk about their pet - and their heartache - freely, without trying to make it better.


Creating Space for Healing

If you’ve recently lost a pet, give yourself permission to grieve. Allow space for your emotions, whether that means crying, reminiscing, or creating a small memorial. Talk about your pet with people who understand, and don’t hesitate to seek support if you need it.

Your grief for your pet is a testament to the love you shared and the memories you will cherish forever.